Self control isn't some elusive quality that either you either have it or don't.  The definition of Self-Control oddly enough is the control of one's self, or of one's own emotions, desires, actions.  What researchers are finding is that self-control is essentially a mental muscle and can be improved by paying attention to what has worked and hasn't in the past.  Learning from your past experiences can help you to identify places, times and thoughts that can help strengthen your self-control.  Think of a time when you were out of control - what happened?  What led up to that point of losing control?  My money is on EMOTIONS.  Conversely, what is happening when you're in control, what are you doing, thinking and saying? Odds are you're being more factual, because, feels are not facts.  Ever watch a Star Trek movie/show where Capt. Kirk and crew are running around hysterical while Dr. Spock is proclaiming what they're experiencing is not logical.  The same is true when you lose control, is it fact or feeling?  Also, the use of an "Anchor" which may be a word, gesture or object could remind you of your inner ability to control yourself.  The Boy Scouts use a gold coin that reminds them to do a good turn daily.  Also, mental rehearsing a challenging situation over and over in your mind (a mental movie) of how you would like an event to play out can help you stay in control.

Along with inner strategies are external ones that are physical things you can do to strengthen your self control. Take care of your body.  Getting plenty of sleep and exercise can help with better decision making and managing stress.  Not allowing being too hungry will help with cravings, urges and feeling deprived.   Managing your environment to be weight friendly will also, help you stay in control.  Let's face it; you can't eat what's not there.   Stock your refrigerator, cabinets, workspace and car with healthy snacks and food so when you’re out of control you'll also be out of junk.

When you lose control you "SLIP" from your desired goal.  S.L.I.P represents Success- Losing -It's -Priority.  Simple enough but, so very true.  It's OK to SLIP just don't QUIT.

 Have a Great and Successful Week,

-Steve